I have really been struggling with this concept lately. I feel like, being at home with the babies, puts a lot more pressure on me to be doing everything. When I have days that Bryan gets home and the dishes aren’t done, or dinner is cooked yet, I start to feel inadequate. Like I’m not doing my job.
I think that society puts so much pressure on stay-at-home moms because women do go out and have that 9-5 job and then do housework as well. That’s great that they do that. If you’ve read my blog before, you know I never saw myself as a stay-at-home mom.
I think there are pros and cons to working as a mom and being a working mom. But I think that I have been feeling a lot of pressure to be everything to everyone lately. A lot of that pressure, I’m starting to realize, was coming from myself.
Starting this new lifestyle of eating healthy and working out, has opened my eyes to a few things. I used to workout everyday. I had that capability. Now, there are days where everything seems to get in the way. It doesn’t matter what I do, or how the day starts, I’m going to have unpredictable days. I am a mom of three. Everything about my life is unpredictable.
I do have the ability to change how I look at my days. Instead of pushing things aside that I would normally do for myself, I realized that I need to do these things. If I don’t, that builds and builds until I am feeling completely defeated.
I need to remember that in order to be everything to everyone else, I first need to do everything I can for myself. If I’m taking care of me, then I am so much better at taking care of them.
You know we don’t sleep all night. We’re up a lot with the babies. (This is getting better and some nights are better than others) I really can’t complain. But, it also leaves me with the inability to wake up before everyone else and get my workout in.
With inconsistency in a sleep schedule, it’s forced me to come up with different ways to make sure I’m holding myself accountable. This week, the babies have done a wonderful job of watching or playing while I have been working out.
If I don’t get it in during the day, Bryan will also take them for 20 minutes into the playroom. I’ve actually enjoyed having them watch me. I think it will eventually show them how hard I work for what I have and how important it is to make good eating decisions and stay healthy by having a consistent workout.
I need to let go of all the stereotypical thoughts when it comes to being a stay-at-home mom. It looks different for everyone. Bryan doesn’t care if the dishes aren’t done when he gets home. He also doesn’t care if I need to wait for him to be home in order to cook a quick dinner.
He’s happy that I spend my days with my kids. Not running around trying to get everything done. You know that I spend most of my evenings running around and cleaning everything that has been destroyed during the day. There are nights where I just don’t have that in me. He’s completely okay with that, too.
It’s me that has the problem with it. I feel like I should be more. I should do more. When in reality, my kids are happy, healthy, they play well with others, they say Thank-you whenever they are supposed to. They’re in the process of learning please. They are growing in the eyes of God.
They laugh a lot. They love each other. They hug and kiss. I did that. Bryan and I have created a home where they are free to be themselves and laugh and play. They are free to be kids and I am free to be the mom that doesn’t always have everything together. If that matters to anyone else, then so be it.
I know deep down, though, it’s me that is not okay with it. So I need to change my thought process. Here I am. Not a super-mom. Not the mom that everything is always just so. I’m just a mom who loves her kids unconditionally. I’m just a mom who spends her time making sure to be the best me I can be for them. I’m just a mom who is a work in progress.
As the label always says, I’m not just a Triplet Mom. But I’m taking that label and I’m running with it. I love my babies with my whole heart and I am grateful to God every day that he has blessed us with them. I’m the lucky one, so I need to be sure that I am setting the example for my kids.
First, I’m getting rid of these stereotypical thoughts. Second, I’m going to run around and sing the chicken dance song so my kids can laugh some more. Third, I’m going to be the best me I can for my husband and my kids. If you don’t like what I’m doing over here, then please stop looking, because it works for us. 🙂
Happy Thursday everyone!! I hope everyone has a blessed week! 😀