Everything to Everyone

I have really been struggling with this concept lately. I feel like, being at home with the babies, puts a lot more pressure on me to be doing everything. When I have days that Bryan gets home and the dishes aren’t done, or dinner is cooked yet, I start to feel inadequate. Like I’m not doing my job.

I think that society puts so much pressure on stay-at-home moms because women do go out and have that 9-5 job and then do housework as well. That’s great that they do that. If you’ve read my blog before, you know I never saw myself as a stay-at-home mom.

I think there are pros and cons to working as a mom and being a working mom. But I think that I have been feeling a lot of pressure to be everything to everyone lately. A lot of that pressure, I’m starting to realize, was coming from myself.

Starting this new lifestyle of eating healthy and working out, has opened my eyes to a few things. I used to workout everyday. I had that capability. Now, there are days where everything seems to get in the way. It doesn’t matter what I do, or how the day starts, I’m going to have unpredictable days. I am a mom of three. Everything about my life is unpredictable.

I do have the ability to change how I look at my days. Instead of pushing things aside that I would normally do for myself, I realized that I need to do these things. If I don’t, that builds and builds until I am feeling completely defeated.

I need to remember that in order to be everything to everyone else, I first need to do everything I can for myself. If I’m taking care of me, then I am so much better at taking care of them.

You know we don’t sleep all night. We’re up a lot with the babies. (This is getting better and some nights are better than others) I really can’t complain. But, it also leaves me with the inability to wake up before everyone else and get my workout in.

With inconsistency in a sleep schedule, it’s forced me to come up with different ways to make sure I’m holding myself accountable. This week, the babies have done a wonderful job of watching or playing while I have been working out.

If I don’t get it in during the day, Bryan will also take them for 20 minutes into the playroom. I’ve actually enjoyed having them watch me. I think it will eventually show them how hard I work for what I have and how important it is to make good eating decisions and stay healthy by having a consistent workout.

I need to let go of all the stereotypical thoughts when it comes to being a stay-at-home mom. It looks different for everyone. Bryan doesn’t care if the dishes aren’t done when he gets home. He also doesn’t care if I need to wait for him to be home in order to cook a quick dinner.

He’s happy that I spend my days with my kids. Not running around trying to get everything done. You know that I spend most of my evenings running around and cleaning everything that has been destroyed during the day. There are nights where I just don’t have that in me. He’s completely okay with that, too.

It’s me that has the problem with it. I feel like I should be more. I should do more. When in reality, my kids are happy, healthy, they play well with others, they say Thank-you whenever they are supposed to. They’re in the process of learning please. They are growing in the eyes of God.

They laugh a lot. They love each other. They hug and kiss. I did that. Bryan and I have created a home where they are free to be themselves and laugh and play. They are free to be kids and I am free to be the mom that doesn’t always have everything together. If that matters to anyone else, then so be it.

I know deep down, though, it’s me that is not okay with it. So I need to change my thought process. Here I am. Not a super-mom. Not the mom that everything is always just so. I’m just a mom who loves her kids unconditionally. I’m just a mom who spends her time making sure to be the best me I can be for them. I’m just a mom who is a work in progress.

As the label always says, I’m not just a Triplet Mom. But I’m taking that label and I’m running with it. I love my babies with my whole heart and I am grateful to God every day that he has blessed us with them. I’m the lucky one, so I need to be sure that I am setting the example for my kids.

First, I’m getting rid of these stereotypical thoughts. Second, I’m going to run around and sing the chicken dance song so my kids can laugh some more. Third, I’m going to be the best me I can for my husband and my kids. If you don’t like what I’m doing over here, then please stop looking, because it works for us. πŸ™‚

Happy Thursday everyone!! I hope everyone has a blessed week! πŸ˜€

10 thoughts on “Everything to Everyone

  1. You are a wonderful mom, wife, daughter, friend etc!! Not only do you do all those things at home- but at the church as well … you made cupcakes and did a kids lesson with just hours notice ( Thank you so muchπŸ’•)Don’t let the enemy steal your joy or believe lies that make you think you are inadequate !
    You are beloved !

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    1. Awww!!! Thank you so much!!! Haha I have fun with the kids at church. I never mind that!! Thank you for the kind words! You made my day!

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  2. You have hit the nail on the head with this one! As I have been home for the past for months I have been feeling so much pressure to make sure everything is done, dinner is started, the house is clean etc. When in reality no on cares as much as me. As my time is winding down before returning to work, I am feeling guilty that I focused so much on everything else and not as much on just being home and enjoying the time with the kids. Not saying that I didn’t but I wish my focus would have been even MORE then and less everything else. We only get these days with them once and dishes, laundry and cleaning for eternity! πŸ™„ Haha I have also been allowing myself 20 minutes for me and Carson has joined me daily and looks forward to that time exercising with me! You are doing an amazing job. Keep up the good work! πŸ’•

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    1. You’ve got that right! Dishes, laundry, and cleaning for eternity hahaha The kids really seem to enjoy watching me make a fool of myself on this step!! πŸ˜€ Thanks girl!!

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  3. I once read being a “stay at home mom” is like having 2 full time jobs with no breaks and a lot of overtime!!!! And I believe that! Your an amazing mom and your babies and hubby love you that’s all that matters!!!! As for your self you’ll get it together, changing your lifestyle is so hard when you have to give so much to 3 little lives, which is why I always give up (and I only have one πŸ˜‚)but with a determined mind and support you’ll blow it out of the water!! Love you girly!

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    1. This is so sweet, Janice!!! It’s definitely an adjustment! We do the best we can haha

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  4. I don’t sleep either. I received a diffuser with oils for Christmas. BEST gift ever. Since I have a sinus infection AND don’t sleep I diffused lavender and Peppermint oil. Zzzzzz! It humidifies the air and puts me to sleep and I can breathe. Worth a shot! Good luck!

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    1. Thanks Jennifer!! We’ve tried some essential oils and they just haven’t worked!! I know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it won’t last forever. One day, I’ll want them to climb into bed with me and they’ll be wanting independence haha So I try to cherish it!!

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  5. Tricia! I think your a Super mom! Stop swearing the small stuff! This time with your blessings will be gone in the blink of an eye! Your house will still be there, but they’ll never be this age again!! Keep doing what your doing!! Your rockin it girl!!

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    1. Lisa!!! You are so sweet!!! I am definitely needing to take a step back!! :D:D

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