With Father’s Day in sight, I wanted to take a minute to talk about Father’s of multiples. These words may not reflect every father of multiples, but it certainly pertains to my husband.
From day one, my husband has had to step into his dad shoes with full force. He doesn’t get to not help with the feedings. He doesn’t get to skip out on diaper changes. There isn’t really a choice as to whether or not he has to help with bath time. He doesn’t get to lay down while I put the babies to bed. As much as I do by myself in a day, I couldn’t do our evenings every night, by myself.
When he gets home from work, he steps in. He usually feeds them dinner while I get to eat my dinner. He still has his hobby of racing and takes his time to go and do that, but really doesn’t have a choice but to help me with my day to day jobs.
He’ll take the kids out on the swings so I can get the house in order. He’ll dry and change the kids after baths. He has never steered away from changing diapers. I think most dad’s don’t have to be as involved with the day to day, because with one baby, I could take care of most of it. Would I need a break? Of course. But would I need him to do as much as he does? Definitely not.
Do I think that if we had just one baby, he wouldn’t be as involved? No, I think he would still jump in when needed. I definitely think he would take a little more time to himself and I would probably do the same. It’s all just a matter of having time. Would we change anything about the way our lives are right now? Absolutely not.
We are so blessed with these three babies, that the little bit of time to myself isn’t even a thought anymore. We’re lucky, Bryan is usually off Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. This gives me a little bit of a reprieve and he will usually take a morning feed so I can sleep a little extra.
Most of the time, I’m so busy making sure that I have everything done in a normal day, to make sure he knows he’s appreciated. Does he know that I don’t take him for granted? Absolutely. I may not say it every day, but he knows that I’m grateful to him for being the dad that he is to our babies.
Most Dad’s get to find themselves as father’s before they become one to three babies. My husband took on his role and ran with it. As much as people tell me how great of a job I’m doing, he doesn’t get as much credit as he should. From the outside looking in, yes I am with them 24/7, but he is also out making it so I can be with them that much.
I wish I had more words to show my gratitude, but I’m excited to have our family day today and to get to watch him race on Saturday. Sunday, we will make the rounds to both our families so we can see our dad’s and the kids and I will dote on him a little bit for his second father’s day.
I hope everyone has a great weekend and if you see any parents of multiples, be sure not to just tell the mom how great of a job they’re doing. Dad’s play a huge role in making things look like they’re run like a well oiled machine. At least in my household!